Forget about the discomfort for a while. Forget about the fear of stigma. Let yourself flow with the wind of your whims. Don’t be afraid of what you want, don’t shy away from the tickle.
What if there were no consequences? What if it were as little a deal as trying to throw a ball of scrunched up paper into the wastebasket? You either miss, indifferently, or you make the shot in jubilation.
What stops you from doing the crazy thing if not your fear of projected pain? No, not real pain, just a little emotional pang because you had such oh so high expectations. There is no failure, there are only misfires, calibrations, test runs, constructive attempts and reality challenges.
The irrational fear is just a fossil of your past. That weird giddy feeling that makes you shake a little is the beacon of your future. Don’t walk backwards into the future, dive in headlong.
I want you to put your emotions at risk. I want you to put your expectations at risk. I want you to put yourself in the firing line and realize that there is no fire to begin with. There is only the lack of the familiar.
You are more than petty risk aversion. You are a presence of action. You’ve been given these hands with which to do. You’ve been given this brain with which to think. You’ve been given this mouth with which to speak. You’ve been given these legs with which to leap, and this electricity with which to ignite.
But I’m not asking you to pick a fight. I’m not asking you break your legs. Would I be asking you to break the law?
I’m asking you take a leap of faith. No matter how small, to probe into the unknown you have flagged as dangerous. I want to deny your programming, once a day.
I want to see you be you respecting you. Because you can’t respect your boundaries without disrespecting yourself.
You can be an explorer exploring himself. You can be a painter painting herself. You can be a boat, sailing beyond its own waters. The adventure begins when you leave the perimeter. This tickle you call fear, that’s where your life begins.
Will you take the challenge? Before you go to bed, I want you think of something outrageous. I want you to think of something small that you never had the nerve to do in spite of the tickle of excitement it gives you.
I want you to enter into a covenant with me and your vaster self to live beyond your perimeter. Not as a destination, but as a state of mind. The next day, you will take your emotional risk. Try to hit the wastebasket. The only thing you have to do is to reach beyond yourself. And gain new ground.
Well, you might have started small, it may have been too easy. But the game is not over it. On the same day, at night, before you go to sleep, I want you to think of another emotional risk.
Up the ante, and do it the next day—again and again for a week. You will be more than surprised. Your life might change in drastic ways. Your presence will magnetize with certainty.
Take the challenge and flex you boldness, put your emotions at risk. You deserve yourself beyond the push and pull of fear and familiarity.